smoother
about a week ago, i went to this bonfire thing and wound up trying to make small talk with a guy who i've known peripherally for about a year (meaning that he's friends of friends and often at stuff i'm at).
i say "trying" to make small talk, because i went to all my go-to, icebreaker topics and he was really just not having it.
plus, he was doing that thing where he was talking to me but looking around for someone better.
which i hate.
my defense strategy when a social situation is going awkwardly... is to make it worse. seriously. i go into a bit and i keep escalating it to see how long it takes people to get that i'm joking. its like a game of sense-of-humor chicken.
so i'm in the middle of a bit and i say something like, "what do you think i should do?" and the guy i was talking to said, "i don't know. maybe you should be smoother."
then he said he wanted to go get some "wassail before it runs out" and he stood up and walked over to a group of girls.
smoother girls.
i was left staring at the empty space where he'd been sitting. then, i realized that one of my guy friends, dave, had been sitting next to him. and i realized this when dave said, "um... hi kat." and dave said, "um... hi kat." because my stunned, staring into space, was actually stunned, staring at dave's face.
so, ya. maybe i do need to be smoother. but i think the better, more bloggable point is that sometimes nice, straight arrow guys are kind of assholes.
:)
i say "trying" to make small talk, because i went to all my go-to, icebreaker topics and he was really just not having it.
plus, he was doing that thing where he was talking to me but looking around for someone better.
which i hate.
my defense strategy when a social situation is going awkwardly... is to make it worse. seriously. i go into a bit and i keep escalating it to see how long it takes people to get that i'm joking. its like a game of sense-of-humor chicken.
so i'm in the middle of a bit and i say something like, "what do you think i should do?" and the guy i was talking to said, "i don't know. maybe you should be smoother."
then he said he wanted to go get some "wassail before it runs out" and he stood up and walked over to a group of girls.
smoother girls.
i was left staring at the empty space where he'd been sitting. then, i realized that one of my guy friends, dave, had been sitting next to him. and i realized this when dave said, "um... hi kat." and dave said, "um... hi kat." because my stunned, staring into space, was actually stunned, staring at dave's face.
so, ya. maybe i do need to be smoother. but i think the better, more bloggable point is that sometimes nice, straight arrow guys are kind of assholes.
:)
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